Bullying & Abuse

There is no legal definition of bullying. It is usually defined as repeated behaviour  which  is  intended  to  hurt  someone  either  emotionally  or physically,  and  is  often  aimed  at  certain  people  because  of  their  race, religion,  gender  or  sexual  orientation  or  any  other  aspect  such  as appearance or disability.

Bullying can take many forms including:

• Name calling

• Making things up to get you into trouble

• Hitting,  pinching,  biting,  pushing  and  shoving

• Taking things away from you or stealing or damaging your belongings

• Causing or stirring trouble between your friends

• Cyber bullying – sending you or posting offensive messages or images

• Threats and intimidation

• Making silent or abusive phone calls

Bullying can unfortunately take place in the home and be committed by family members. If you are experiencing or witnessing abuse at home then please don’t ignore it. Get help immediately. If life is in danger then call 999 immediately.

“My daughter is now aware of how to strategically deal with any bullying…and has learnt to love herself”

Tips to deal with bullying:

Don’t

Don’t ignore it

Don’t think that by temporarily “letting” yourself be bullied that it will make the bullies eventually lose interest and stop. That usually doesn’t happen, In fact, on many occasions, the bullying unfortunately escalates.

Don’t delete the evidence

Bullying is very disturbing and you might feel like deleting or hiding the evidence so that no one finds out or as a way of you trying to forget the experience. When confronted by elders or the police, bullies will usually lie so save all the evidence. If possible, have it recorded on a mobile phone.

Don’t let it control you

It is easy to believe what the bullies are saying to you. However, the issues always lies with bullies. They are usually quite insecure and may have resorted to expressing their frustration because of a difficult past. So, don’t believe a word of what they are accusing you of because it isn’t true. Bullies are often the most vulnerable and unstable and need help.

Don’t react angrily

Bullies often look for a reaction. It is easy to lash out in defence but try and be calm and don’t get provoked into lashing out otherwise the bully will turn things around when confronted by a grown up or the police and blame you for causing trouble.

Do

Be confident

Bullies want you to be scared and intimidated. So, act confident, sit up straight, walk confidently and try and continue to behave normally with everyone.

Be assertive

Be fair but firm. Answer confidently and speak clearly, slowly and loudly. Make eye contact if you need to address them and smile.

Avoid if you can

If you know that the bullies may be “plotting” something against you then it’s wise to avoid going there. Never deliberately put yourself in danger. If it is cyber bullying then consider blocking their number or profile and report them.

Get help

This is extremely important. Most schools adopt a zero tolerance to bullying and bullying stops when help is sought. Never suffer in silence. Tell a friend you trust, a teacher you feel comfortable with or a family member. You will be surprised at how quickly things get resolved when you ask for help.

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