Confidence & Self-esteem

Our self-esteem is how we value and perceive ourselves. Having low self-esteem isn’t a mental health problem in itself but not addressing it may lead to mental health problems such as depression or anxiety.

If you have low self-esteem you may feel:

Like you hate or dislike yourself

• Worthless or not good enough

• Indecisive and low in confidence

• You feel as if no one likes you

• You blame yourself for things that aren’t your fault

• Guilt for spending time or money on yourself

• Unable to recognise your strengths

• You feel that you don’t deserve to be happy

“I noticed a change in her from the very first session”…

If you think your low self-esteem is impacting on your life, take a look at our tips on improving your self-esteem:

Think about what is affecting your self-esteem

Ask why you feel so bad about yourself? Is it because something didn’t go as well as you expected. Many of the most “successful” people have failed previously and regularly have to deal with lots of setbacks. The truth is that negative experiences will make us even stronger if we remain positive and not let things get to us.

Avoid negative self-talk

When we’re feeling low, we tend to develop negative vocabulary such as “I’m a failure” ” “No one likes me” and “I’m useless”. Negative statements about ourselves aren’t even true and will make things even more difficult so stop being too harsh on yourself.

Connect with people who love you

If you feel that there’s people putting you down then it’s time to take a break from them. There’s lots of people who will be much more understanding so surround yourself with loved ones. Listen to their words of encouragement and believe in yourself.

Learn to be assertive

When you’re low in confidence then it might be difficult to make decisions. However, being more decisive and telling yourself that today you will make a decision about a niggling issue will boost your confidence. Also, learn to say no if you don’t feel comfortable doing something you’re being asked to do.

Set yourself a challenge

The feeling of accomplishing something can really give you a boost in confidence so set yourself a task and then go out and do it!

Focus on your positives

You are special and unique. You have lots of qualities. Seek out your strengths and tell yourself that you can do it. Think about a different positive phrase each day and repeat throughout the day. Repeating positive statements such as “I can do it”, “I can make a difference” and “I am talented” will make you feel energised and raring to go!

Take care of yourself

It’s easy to stop looking after yourself when you’re feeling down and when you don’t look good you feel worse. So, make an effort to look good, smarten up, wear something nice, pamper yourself and you’ll feel so much better.

Get support if things get too much

Talk to someone. Tell them what you’re feeling. Letting things out will relieve so much of the in-built tension and you’ll feel more lighter and relaxed.






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